The journey of life has principles we need to abide by. One of the principles is growth.Yes,natural progression. Moving from one level to the next. We all want growth because we know this fundamental truth, that whatever doesn’t grow becomes stagnant and loses relevance. This is true in marriage and also in relationships.
It is the only chance of survival. We cannot afford to be complacent, stagnancy leads to decay . It’s costly to restore decay,that’s why prevention is always better than cure.Now lack of growth brings hopelessness and this causes a lot of pain. This is due to the cracking foundations and loss of interest. The sad thing is stagnancy in relationships causes doubt to the future of the relationship. This limits our commitment to the relationship. No one wants to commit to anything that isn’t going anywhere.
Growth comes in many forms some comfortable and others uncomfortable. Life experiences and challenges can force us to grow emotionally. We can attain maturity acquiring wisdom . Advancement of knowledge can inspire us to grow by broadening our perspectives on life issues. We owe it to our spouses to keep growing.
I have heard people and mostly ladies saying their partners need to grow up. This might be true but one thing for sure is the better him will need a better you. So growth shouldn’t be one sided,it must be a mutual pursuit. We need to grow individually to grow together.
Growth is not taught but its inspired. You need a partner that is able to mirror to you, who you can become. This is a partner that is able to feed your growth by being honest with you. Highlighting areas of development while having the patience to see change happening.
Now talking about growth in relationships, the love we had for each other at the beginning must be less than the love we have for each other now. We can simply evaluate our growth by drawing strength from the things we have been through as a couple.
Keep adding shades of love to your relationship. Discover new reasons to love your spouse even more. In my case I keep falling in love with my wife with every role she assumes.It gets deeper all the time. I now love her as my lover , my partner and most importantly my wife.